Lunes, Marso 4, 2013

Teenagers insecurity can lead to depression


I am no longer a teenager but I have an idea what are the usual problems that our teenagers have today. It is also based on my experience before as a teenager. My three brothers are all smart. Actually, they have ribbons and medals every time they graduate – elementary, high school and college. And the only ribbon I got is ‘most cleanliness’.
I feel so insecure then. I have a feeling that whatever I do I cannot get the highest grade. Sometimes I also had failing grades. I see disappointment in my parents face. I want to say I am sorry but I do not want to cry. I want to be strong. I become hard headed. I want to prove to them that even I cannot get the best grade they want I can be somebody.
My father said that it is impossible because I can only get a good job if I get good grades. However, I said, I could also do that. When he asks me how, I answer, when I become famous like my favorite author.
Since childhood, my ambition is to be a great writer. I spend my whole day creating a story. I join scriptwriting and summer writing because I believe that I can only fulfill my ambition if I am ready to face the challenges. I can only do that if I know how to put the proper plot, characters and grammar (of course). And know I can say that I achieve that ambition. Although I am not yet famous, I have the opportunity to make my name known. Everyday my name Maria Angela Gonzales and Ria Gonzales can see at Bulgar, a daily newspaper. Our publisher asks me to do different stories a day – romance, horror, articles and I gave advices.
I share this story to all parents because I want to warn you. Some teenagers become hard headed because they have insecurities. Do they get failing grades? Instead of getting mad, you must talk to them. The problem cannot be solved if you create another problem.
As parents, we must tell our children how much we love them. Whatever they can give to us, we must accept. We should not look for the things they cannot give. If they are not active in class it doesn’t mean that they are less. Maybe they are interested in other things than reading books.
The common problem of a teenager is insecurity so don’t make them feel insecure. Tell him/her that if they can’t do that, maybe they can do this. Parents should boost their children’s ego. If they think that you are not supportive parents believe me they will fail.
Please don’t let that happen to your child because their insecurity will lead into depression and depression can lead to be suicidal. Aside from that, they can also violent.
Now, do you want that it will happen to your child? If not, please be supportive parents. If possible, make them feel better every time they failed. Tell them they can do better next time if they learn to focus